Balancing family needs and your own financial freedom

The ‘Bank of Mum and Dad’ is well known to many aspiring or recent house buyers – but have you heard of the ‘Bank of Son and Daughter’?

New research* has found that, as well as supporting their own children, one in eight high earners are also taking on the role of ‘Bank of Son and Daughter’ to support their parents through rising costs and financial pressures.

Both Bank of Mum and Dad and Bank of Son and Daughter

The research reveals the interesting evolution of wealth through some families. As well as 73% of high-net-worth individuals (HNWIs) who financially support adult children, some 68% have helped their ageing parents or grandparents.

Sandwiched in the middle, 12% of HNWIs are financially supporting both generations at the same time.

Prioritising number one?

By making average gifts of £7,500 per year, many kind-hearted family members are helping parents or children who might otherwise struggle with rising costs.

However, this generosity can come at the expense of their own financial goals. More than one in seven HNWIs have had to restructure their finances in order to finance their gifting, while one in eight have even dipped into their own pension savings.

Meanwhile, three in 10 have had to sell or use investments and 18% say they have cut back on lifestyle spending to support others.

Getting the balance right

Helping family members meet their financial challenges without compromising your own financial future is a tricky tightrope to walk. To maximise your support for loves ones, while ensuring your own financial security, get in touch; we can talk through the various scenarios.

Contact hello@cailean.co.uk or call us on 01577 212577 to discuss your financial planning.

* From BOMAD to ‘bank of son and daughter’ – the sandwich generation financially supporting their adult children and their ageing parents: Saltus Wealth Index, April 2025

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